How comfortable is being comfortable?
You may have been dating for 6 months or 6 years, but the relationship has turned into nothing but bickering and constant fighting. These fights are usually followed by extreme highs. This is what one of my friends coined as, “Relationship Heroin.” It’s just a metaphor to show that you will put up with almost any bullshit to get back to the emotional high with your significant other. This can be okay if the highs outweigh the lows, and the highs happen a lot more than the lows. However, in reality most people continually take it on the chin until they get dumped by the person treating them poorly.
There comes a breaking point with relationships where logic has to trump emotion. The feelings for someone can be so strong that they act as blinders. How wrapped up you have gotten into one person has blinded you from what is actually acceptable behaviour or not. You said you’d never date a smoker, and now you are sucking face with someone who smokes 2 packs a day. You said that you wouldn’t play games and now you are in the bottom of the 9th with 2 out facing a full count. Why? What is so special about this person? In reality they are probably pretty average, you have just taken all the good qualities and blown them out of proportion. They may have been nice before, they may know some of your deepest secrets and they might get along with your parents, but they treat you like shit. Or there is the vice versa, they treat you amazing, but they are up on serious felony charges, unemployed, or clinically insane. Pick your poison. Maybe it’s time to be single for a bit? Yes you got along great with this person at one point, and you may be scared you won’t find that compatibility with anyone else. The truth is he/she is just a girl/guy and there are a lot of good people walking around who will probably be better for you.
It amazes me to see the amount of people who stay in a relationship just for the sake of it. They hold onto how things were when the relationship was all sunshine and smiles. Now its pissing rain out, lightning is coming from the sky as if Zeus was hurling it himself and they are still there thinking about the sunshine. Get out of the storm, dry out your clothes and look forward to a better sunrise.